Good Treatment Of Women Is Not An Option, It Is An Obligation
Violence against women in Latin America has recently been classified as an epidemic in the area, sexual violence is one of the chief forms of violence, and the situation of Mims Bat Removal in the rest of the planet is not very different. According to a report by the World Health Organization and data in the UN Women,”recent statistics of the international prevalence indicate that one in three women in the world (35 percent ) has endured physical and/or sexual abuse of a couple or sexual violence by third parties at some time in their lives”.
In the aftermath of the growing wave of violence against women, protests are organized in various areas of the world, in an unsuccessful attempt to stop it, especially after cases are heard that shake the people due to their cruelty and sadism. And in those protests, you can read countless posters with phrases of repudiation of violence and support for women. Among these phrases that caught my attention and that I have seen repeatedly is:”We live in a world where they teach girls to take care not to be raped, Rather than teaching men NOT TO VIOLATE”… I had been called to attention for two reasons:
The first, because I saw a harsh truth in that phrase, because I was born and raised in a macho society in which it’s taken as normal for men to harass women in the street, to tell them obscenities or to touch them impudently; in which it’s common for men to beat their women because they have”rights” to them – in some regions of the country, women consider that their husbands have the right to strike them, because they are their husbands, and they get angry if someone tries to shield them!!! It seems a joke, but it’s not-, and I believe that to a large extent the high rate of sexual violence against girls in my country and in the rest of the world is machismo.
The second, because I’d have liked to explain to the person who wrote that phrase that Islam does teach men to”not offend”. Moreover, before referring to the issue of women’s behavior and dress, the Koran calls men’s attention to their behaviour and gives them a strong warning: Here God is telling men that they shouldn’t even look at women undulyup to that level guys have to respect women, in spite of their eyes! And they are warned that God knows what they’re doing, even if no one else knows, God knows. Then, in the first place, God addresses guys and commands them to behave well and respect women; then he addresses women and orders them to act well and dress modestly, because Islam is fair, and teaches us that both men and women must fulfill our share of responsibility to make this a better world and live in harmony. So Islam teaches men not to rape because if they are forbidden to examine women unduly, they are much more forbidden to touch them .
Islam has approached the dilemma of good treatment of women in a detailed and in depth manner, emphasizing the special respect it deserves in each of the various stages it goes through throughout its life – when it is a daughter, when she’s a wife and when she is a mother-, as we will see below.
Respect for girls
Before Islam was revealed, among the Arabs was considered a misfortune the birth of a girl. While men were the cause of the pride of their parents and family members, girls were cause for despair and disappointment; and because of this, they had the dreadful habit of burying alive the newly born women. God categorically condemned this attitude and these offenses, saying: When one of them is announced [the birth of] a woman, the affliction and distress is reflected in her face because of what has been announced to her, she hides from the people ashamed and doubt whether he’ll let her live in spite of his disgrace or bury her alive. What a dreadful thing they are doing! [Quran 16: 58-59]; and warns that one day will come, the Day of Judgment,When girls are requested to be buried alive for what sin they were murdered [Quran 81: 8-9]. In this manner God forbade this wild practice considering it a very serious sin. But also, but it made the upbringing and education of the brothers a motive to win the blessings of God and eliminate the fire of Hell; said the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of God be upon him):”Whoever has three daughters whom he cares for, provides them with what is necessary and treats them with mercy, Allah will make him enter Paradise without a place of Doubts”. Then a man from the crowd asked:”What if he’s just two daughters?” The Prophet replied:”Even if he has two daughters.”
This is how Islam establishes the worth of girls from birth and provides them a place of honor by making them a source of blessing for their parents in this life and at the other.
Respect to the mother
Islam commands respect and decent treatment towards our parents but elevates the status of the mother over the father. Who is the man who deserves my company?” He responded:”Your mother.” The guy asked:”Then who?” The Prophet replied:”Your mother.” The man asked for the third time:”Then who?” The Prophet said:”Your mom.” And the man asked again:”And then who?”
Even the Prophet spoke of the respect we should have towards our aunts. A man went to speak with Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) and said:”O Prophet, I have committed a grave sin. He asked:”Does your mother live?” He replied no, then the Prophet asked him:”Have you got any maternal aunt alive?” The man said yes, then the Prophet said to him:”Be good and considerate for her” (Tirmidhi, Al-Hakim, Ibn Hibban); and he also said:”The mother’s sister has a status similar to that of the mother” (Bukhari).
Respect to the wife
Said the Prophet Muhammad:”The best among men is the one who best treats his wife.”
The Koran commands: … kindly treat girls in coexistence. And if something of these should displease you [be tolerant], it may be that you dislike something in which God has put a good for you [Koran 4:19].
During the past sermon given by the Prophet Muhammad before his death, he said:”… Treat your women well and be kind to them, because they are the companions.”